Wedding planning woes: How to avoid wedding disaster
I have two sisters. The older, the quintessential “drama queen,” considered her wedding day the greatest day in her life … make that in anyone’s life, in the entire history of the world, possibly this universe and any possible alternate realities. The younger considers the birth of her three children rank equally as said “greatest day.” Consequently, everything in the elder’s life has been downhill since that day, while for the younger things seem to be getting better and better (with certain qualifications) as her children mature and grow into the people to which their births gave promise.
The key to understanding this, and (incidentally) to the new type of entertainment known as “wedding day disasters” and the “bridezilla” phenomenon (Is the next sequel to be “Groom of Bridezilla”?) – thereby avoiding the state of mind that magnifies trivial matters into COMPLETE DISASTERS, OH MY GOD! – is to realize that the incredible emphasis put on weddings nowadays is a recent phenomenon.
In my opinion this development may have been heavily influenced by the televised ceremony of Queen Elizabeth II’s wedding to Prince Phillip, and exacerbated by that of Prince Charles and Lady Diana. Expectations are unrealistically high. You’re going to have to face the fact that you’re not the Queen of England or Prince Consort. Your wedding video will not be oohed and awed over for decades; more than likely somebody’s going to tape over it for the Superbowl, or you’ll never watch it unless you enjoy cringing at the dumb hairstyles and clothing of thirty years ago, or how stupid your own voice sounds to you.
The bottom line, however, is that weddings, which used to cost no more than the price of the license, a stipend to the minister or justice of the peace, and a breakfast or dinner for a small wedding party and then back to work or off on a honeymoon, have assumed the proportions of a multi-national affair of State. The slightest slip in protocol or deviation from planning could mean a world war or permanently damaged relations.
There are thus three important steps to avoid wedding disasters, and which must be incorporated into any planning sessions.
The first step in avoiding a wedding disaster or the Birth of Bridezilla is (obviously), get a little perspective. The wedding ceremony, even the reception, is not the marriage, nor does the wedding day really set the tone for the rest of your life. The wedding and the reception are merely transient ceremonies,
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